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Monthversary

We've been together for more than a year now, but we still celebrate our monthversaries—with one exception. Last month, both of us were wondering whether it was a noteworthy day. Ilse twisted her mind: whose birthday is it? Else checked her calendar for birthdays of her friends. At some point we talked about it:

Ilse: "I have the feeling today is a special day. It might be a birthday, but I have no idea whose it could be."

(Else made a suggestion that turned out to be correct, but it wasn't a birthday we would ever celebrate.)

A few days later, we realized what we forgot: our monthversary!

Ever since we talked about being a couple and settled on a date (it almost never is just one day, is it?), we try to make this day a special one: we make each other small—usually handmade—presents, prepare surprises and/or go to an extravagant (more or less ...) restaurant. We spent one of our favorite monthversaries at an Israeli restaurant on the eighth floor with fantastic views of the city.

Today is another monthversary and to make up for the missed one, we planned to enjoy this evening with a homemade classic Swiss cheese fondue. (You should try it with pears and grapes!) We aren't the greatest cooks, but we enjoy cooking together. And although it takes a while, cheese fondue is super easy to make!
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Location: Cologne, Germany

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