Happy birthday, Else!

Today is a very special day because it is Else's birthday!

For me (Ilse) this is my favorite day of the year because I love surprising Else. I wish her birthday celebration could go on for days and weeks. Just make it an Else-year.

I never thought that I would meet my soulmate on tinder when I started using the app about 2 years ago.

Flash forward to November 9th 2020. Else is sitting next to me while I am writing this blog text. I never thought that I would be so happy in 2020. She makes me incredibly happy. She is the most caring and most funny person in the universe and she always manages to make me smile or laugh even when I'm in a really bad mood or even when the world seems to be going down.

2020 is a very challenging year for everyone. The pandemic is affecting the mood. It sometimes depresses me a lot and I start to worry or miss things so much. And then there is Else who never fails to cheer me up and to put me in a good mood.

And now, more than ever, it is so important to have someone at your side. So Else's birthday is an opportunity to give something back, to show her how much I love her and to celebrate her. And most of all to thank her for being the most amazing person on the planet! My number one!

Thank you Else! I'm looking forward to celebrating so many birthdays with you!

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